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The topic is moral development. But other parents are on the edge of their seats. How much should they focus on their child being good? And will it help their child get accepted at a prestigious school?
Wealthy parents are, of course, easy targets. They seem to have no excuses and few defenders.
Images in popular culture of rich kids as morally imbecilic, trust fund—pampered, Porsche-driving vipers are as wildly off target as are stereotypes of marauding, gun-toting, crack-addled poor black and Latino kids.
But the fact remains: When it comes to academic achievement, many parents in upper- and middle-class communities have gone overboard. Parents are now going to legendary lengths to prime the mental engines of infants and toddlers—one-third of U.
Some parents not only become paramilitary when it comes to securing selective preschool slots, but also procure tutors for their preschool children Fuchs, And when college looms on the horizon, the true madness begins.
In a study that my research team conducted at an independent school, more than one-third of the 40 juniors surveyed identified "getting into a good college" as more important than "being a good person," and nearly one-half of students said that it was more important to their parents that they get into a good college than that they be good people.
When I shared these data with the school, a few teachers protested vehemently. They thought the numbers were far too low. But the trouble is not simply parents. Many schools—independent and suburban schools especially—stoke achievement pressure.
I recently spoke to a group of independent school teachers and administrators, and one teacher said, Every particle of our schools is now devoted to students achieving at a high level and getting into one of these prestigious schools. We should blow ourselves up and start all over again.
Numerous heads nodded in assent. The point is not, of course, that parents or teachers should stop putting pressure on children to achieve. Achievement has, in many cases, become the chief goal of child-raising—and this intense focus threatens to make children both less happy and less moral.
The point is also that parents, schools, and communities all have vital roles to play in curbing destructive forms of achievement pressure and in cultivating healthy notions of achievement. The Emotional and Moral Toll Take year-old Sara, who was, according to her therapist, "a performance machine.
The work of therapy is very slowly helping her start over and figure out what she wants, who she is. Research by Columbia University psychologists Suniya Luthar and Shawn Latendresse suggests something striking and troubling: Even though poor children face many hardships, teenagers in affluent families suffer emotional and moral problems at roughly the same rates.
The causes of these troubles clearly differ in rich and poor communities, as do the consequences. Although there are, to be sure, many complex causes of behavioral and emotional problems, researchers point to a strong association between these troubles and achievement pressures.
The damage wrought by a small but not trivial fraction of parents is obvious. Some parents fail to model a basic sense of fairness.
Some parents fuel a community service olympics, a race to see which parent can secure the most high-profile community service opportunity for their child.
We interviewed the parents of one high school junior who had set up a vocational school in an African country so their daughter could say in her college application that she had started a school in a developing country.
A child who is socially skilled, deeply loyal, funny, feisty, caring, and imaginative may never come to value these qualities or see them as anywhere near the core of his or her being. In these circumstances, children are also more likely to view others in terms of their achievements and see them as competitors or threats.
They suffer both a diminished sense of others and a diminished sense of themselves.
As Alice Miller describes in her classic book on achievement pressures, The Drama of the Gifted Child, children may also learn to closet their feelings, convinced that their parents cannot tolerate anxiety, anger, or sadness because these feelings might impede their performance.
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The Effects of Pressure on Students to get Good Grades Introduction: Living in a society like the one we are living today, can be very challenging for students. As the world gets more competitive, students are getting more pressured to achieve their goals in life.
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